Tag Archives: Midlife crisis


This is the question that each of us is faced with when we stand at the cusp of change.  How do you determine the answer?  How much time does it take you to decide?  My own process is random and spontaneous.  I find the more time I spend ruminating and debating a decision, the less likely I am to actually make a decision.  And indecision equates to remaining in the status quo.

That said, the question of whether I should stay in my country of birth and venture forth into the world, is one that recurs every time I am required to use my passport.  That fantastic little blue book, with its battered and worn edges, that allows me, without prior approval (visas), access to so many parts of the world.  It is the only asset I own that I can not do without, the one document that I can locate no matter how disorganized my space may become.

When I travel, the pull not to return to the US is strong if:

  • I am surrounded by beautiful natural landscapes and joyous and happy people;
  • I feel relaxed and the pressures of work melt away;
  • My greenback dollar bills actually have significant buying power; and
  • My travel partner is not protesting for a quick return home.

This time around however, I have a specific goal in mind and if I find the spot that meets my few requirements, then I am there.  That simple.  Of course my 24 year-old sister thinks I am experiencing a mid-life crisis and my mother thinks the same, but I just think that I am unafraid of change.  In fact, I crave it.

What about you, would you stay (where you are) or would you go? And what would be the triggers for making that decision?  Inquiring minds would like to know!

As a side note – I was singing this title song in my head this morning, when my 8 year-old started singing it in the shower.

“Should I stay or should I go now. If I go there will be trouble, if I stay it will be double. So come on and let me know. Should I stay or should I go!” – The Clash

Should I Stay or Should I Go?